Tuesday, February 1, 2005

The Voices of Men and Women Who've Experienced Abortion

There's a growing group of blogs where women and men write about their personal experience with abortion. The following are their online journals and blogs, often written from the day they found out about the pregnancy to recovery after the abortion. Abortion affects men, women, and families of every background and social status. The most common reaction following an abortion is relief, but also may include any number of emotions including loss, grief, remorse, anger, and sadness. There is no right or wrong way to feel and the range of emotions vary from person to person. The point of this list isn't to make any political statement, but rather to bring to light the diversity of abortion experiences and to encouarge others to speak out about their experiences (much like the Our Truths zine or the Tell My Abortion Story website). Each persons has their own story to tell and unique experience. In sharing their stories, the empower others to also speak out about their own experience and find peace and closure in their decision. I encourage readers to check into these blogs. But keep in mind that the men and women listed here need cyberhugs and support, not judgement or political opinions. Any comments left on their site should be respectful and should be made out of compassion.Please refrain from going to these blogs if you're only going to say or do hurtful things. 
If you blogged your abortion story and feel comfortable sharing, please leave a note and a link to your web blog in the comment box below. Please let me know of any broken links. If you would like me to remove your journal from this list, please leave me a note and I will oblige. 

1 Out of 3 is Me
One out of three women in the United States has an abortion by the age of 45. Still the experience remains shrouded in silence, and for some women, shame. This is a pro-choice abortion blog based on a woman's  personal experience having a second trimester abortion

4 Years Later 
She discusses her feelings surrounding discovering she was pregnant, her boyfriends intial support then abandonment, and her decision to have an aborton. She reflects on her abortion with some sadness but maintains it was the right decision and she does not regret it

A Hole In One
A  young woman's story of her accidental pregnancy, abortion, and no regrets.

A man hears of his guy friend's sad and disgraceful behavior around a girlfriend's abortion.

Thanks in Advanced
A young man's situation of his girlfriend having a baby unexpectedly, when he's not ready.

Abortion Blog
Her experience with a medical abortion. Different people handle serious situations differently, this author takes a light-hearted approach to handle a tough issue.

Abortion Hurts - Silent Rain Drops
The blog of woman who has had an abortion, but also writes on the emotional after effects of abortion.

Abortion Stories
A web journal where various women have posted about their unplanned pregnancy and abortion experience, updating on an on-going basis. Leans towards stories of no regret.

Achromic on the Run
Achromic's story is that of when she was a troubled young woman experiencing two pregnancies, both which ended in abortions that she doesn't regret.

Another Lost Girl 
Her struggles with substance abuse in addition to an unplanned pregnancy and subsequent abortion.

Babyfruit Gal
A married woman struggling with the emotions of a past abortion and present difficulties with infertilty issues. She has mentioned that she has experienced miscarriages (3x) in the same timeframe of her past abortion.

Been There, Done That: Reflections on Abortion
"Walk with me through the journey of unexpected pregnancies and the life-long impact they leave behind."
Faith has has 2 abortions 8 years agoand writes of her journey through discovering her unplanned pregnancies, the resulting abortions, and the healing and grace she's found through faith.

Beer, Barbecue, and Bible Study
Pauly, in his blog, discusses his involvement in an abortion 25 years ago, which seperated him from his unborn son, and it's spiritual and emotional impact on him over the years. He is now helping others through their abortion recovery.

Beth Madison

She writes about abortion regrets, her relationship with ND, and bad dreams

Broomstick Chronicals
This author shares her experiences and decisions with five unplanned pregnancies, 3 of which ended in abortions, one which was during the era in when abortion was illegal.

Choice For All
Writes retrospectively about her positive experience of choosing abortion from a practical and emotional point of view. She also discusses the future and about how she moves on now past her decision.


Recently married, her husband demanded details of earlier relationships, which include an abortion. He appears to have told her that she doesn't deserve to live.

The Ferrret
A view from the male's perspective, his first experiences of sexual discovery and his experience and feelings surrounding his partner's pregnancy and abortion (caution: graphic descriptions)

Faith, Hope and Love
A blog written by a woman who is Christian, post-abortive, bipolar, a cutter and a poet. Her blog's updates are often Christian introspection and consolation.

A single 31 yr old Canadian woman. Having recently gone through a difficult divorce and pregnant with her ex-husbands's child, she decided on an abortion.

The  blog of a young woman who chronicles her eating disorder, drug use and her recent abortion at 23 weeks.

The web journal verision of the site, where various women have posted about their unplanned pregnancy and their positive abortion experiences, updating on an on-going basis.

Had an abortion, which she does not regret. Her mother also has had an abortion.

A Journey Towards Healing
J's partner had an abortion, which also himself struggled with. He describes himself as "a humbled Christian man who once had a broken spirit and a pain-filled heart from an abortion who has sought and received God's forgiveness and has forgiven himself and benefited from intense grief recovery therapy and one-on-one counseling"

Life After Abortion
A blog run by two post-abortion ladies who share reflections, poetry, and stories in relation to healing after an abortion.

Life of a Zygote
Is a brief blog a woman posted from learning she was pregnant up to her due-date when she's pondering what her life would be at this moment if she hadn't aborted.

Live Journal: After Abortion
This is a web journal where various women have posted about their unplanned pregnancy and abortion experience, updating on an on-going basis.

Michele's List of Goodies
Is about a woman's pregnancy and abortion, social life, and struggles with relationships and guys. In this entry she describes the grief she is feeling after her abortion as the following, "I'm grieving the baby I'll never have. I know money is tight and I'm not in a relationship, but I COULD have been a mother...But I'm not. Instead, I'm writing about all the things I could be doing and bawling my eyes out. I know I did the right thing. But the right thing isn't always easy.  Someday, I'll have a baby. But I'll never have this one. At this moment in time, that's simply unbearable."

Mistress of Cheese
Was a newly pregnant 23 yr old. She has had two previous pregnancy losses (abortions?) and her sister has had one abortion. She is in a committed relationship. When she told her family about her pregnancy over the holidays, they were unsupportive and negative. The sister's abortion regrets were triggered by the announcement. It's possible, but not clear, that the mother would prefer that her daughter have a third pregnancy loss.

My Abortion and Related Incidents
Eve is an artist in her mid-twenties who shares her general feelings, thoughts, and conversations surrounding her abortion decision and relief she felt.

My Abortion Story

Felt she had no choice but to have an abortion. She shares her story in memory of her angel, Sophie.

Has stepped up and taken responsbility for his fiance's pregnancy. However his fiance is wanting an abortion, and had planned to do so without his knowing.

My Truest Thoughts
A young woman who has started a blog to share her about her abortion experience in February of 2006. She continues to remember the abortion vividly and is hurting emotionally.

Discovered she was pregnant while she was involved in a rocky relationship, and choose abortion with uncertainty. She also has had a daughter, whom she placed with an adoptive family.

One in One Thousand
A pro-choice blog chronicling an unlikely pregnancy and its second trimester abortion

The S.I.C.L.E. Cell Blog
S.I.C.L.E. is an abbreviation for "Self Induced Child Loss Experience" Ashely writes about her experience with an abortion as the result of having hyperemesis gravidarum and her feelings and emotions surrounding her abortion experience.

Sweet-Nothingness of Dolce
She talks about the impact of an abortion when she was 17.

Teen Parents and Abortion Survivors 
 A support blog started by a teen parent who's experienced abortion and wants to share her experience and provide support for others.

Relflects on her decision to have an abortion as a teenager, the impact of the decison on her life, and the meaning of "choice".

Shares her experience with her unplanned pregnancy and subsequent surgical abortion with no regrets

Uncommon Misconception
Is one woman's tragic story of a poor prenatal diagnosis and abortion of her unborn son, Thomas.

Underwater Clown Consipiracy
April's struggle with infertility about her 2 past abortions, "They seem to infiltrate the happy moments and lend - not necessarily sadness, but more of just a contemplative stillness." You can follow her in her new life here.

We All Have Shitty Days
The blog writer talks about her pregnancy that resulted from a love affair, and her resulting decision to have an abortion.

What to Expect When You''re Aborting
"I'm 23, I'm knocked up. I'm not keeping it." Her honest and down-to-earth experience with a surgical abortion at 7 weeks.

Why Life Goes On
Writes about her struggles with her feelings towards her fetus and her abortion.

Was sexually assaulted 10 years ago in college and terminated the resulting pregnancy. She feels her abortion was the right decison and speaks about as the right to abortion and EC for rape victims.

Links Curtesy of Annie and Emily over at AfterAbortion, Christina at Real ChoiceJivin' J, found on various web blogs, and searched on Google and Yahoo! using key phrase: "my abortion" site:[insert blog host name here].com

Updated With 3 New Stories 7-11-2011

Original Comments for This Entry:

Patri Ann made this comment,
I want to comment on this entry and this blog. I really appreciate what you are doing here. I think it's important to look at many, many sides when trying to make up your mind about an issue, and also, to state your opinions while valuing and respecting the opinions of others. That is a noble aim. One that I strive to acheive as well.
However, I would like to say that your description of me and my entry above is somewhat inaccurate. I am pro-life, but not in the way that I think you are reading it. I think that life is valuable, but I don't think that a fetus is life. I am adamantly supportive of a woman's choice to terminate her pregnancy. What I wrote is my story of choice. And "choice" doesn't always feel like a choice, but I would have done it over if I had my life to live again. And, I knew, and still know, that by choosing abortion, I chose not to give my fetus the option of life, but I also think I did the right thing and I sleep soundly.

Rachael made this comment,
Patri Ann, Thank you for taking the time to visit and give feedback. By no means do I intend to misrepresent your beliefs or your story. If you wish, I will edit the description of your story (what would you like the description to say?) or even remove it from my listing here. Please do let me know.

Patri Ann made this comment,
Please, don't remove it. I think it is important to have many, many viewpoints when considering any decision, and I think your site is amazing in its desire to show those viewpoints. I don't know what I'd like it to say, although your alteration of it seems fine for now. Thank you.

Rachael's Note: Patri Ann's blog was removed at a later time because the blog has since been removed from Blogger.

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