Friday, July 15, 2005

Mercy, Compassion, and Forgiveness for the Post-Abortion Woman

I came across this awesome quote from a pro-life visitor to the contraversial website of Operation Rescue West (don't even get me started on their negative impact on the pro-life movement):

Sunflower wrote:
"judge and you shall be judged" [Bible]
'Ultimately we should not be judging anyone for their sins or actions, but we should however be forgiving them and hope they can forgive themselves. We should be compassionate for whatever their "sins" might be, especially in the case of abortion, where no one knows what might bring a "mother to be" to come to such decision!'

I completely agree with this. It is not our place to judge. Especially if she is feeling hurt, loss, regret, or sorrow, she doesn't need salt rubbed into her wounds (metaphorically speaking) But nor do we have to condone the sin to love the sinner. "Hate the sin but not the sinner" [Bible, I need to look up the verse) I reassure you that we don't have to condone abortion to give compassion and mercy to the woman facing an unplanned pregnancy or who have chosen abortion. This is the attitude more of the pro-life movement needs to take on.

On an additional note, there's a grieving post-abortion woman on Feminist Forum needing support. As I was following a referral link to my web journal from a Google search of abortion regrets, I found a grieving post-abortion woman's post at feminist forum in the UK.

She originally wrote: "I already have a nine year old daughter and have a very good job and am still with my daughters father, but i fell pregnant in feb and had a abortion and now i feel so gulity. I was given the injection that last three months and it will be over may 12 i want i have a baby now because i now feel that ishouldnt have done it. what shall i do?"

She received a lot responses from pro-choicers and prolifers condemning to indefferent (telling her to "seek forgiveness" and to "get over it").

Her original post is a few months old, however another greiving post-abortion woman posted in June. These ladies could use some supportive and encouraging words among the highly political responses.

Friday, July 1, 2005

Hyperemesis Gravidarum: It's Beyond Morning Sickness.

Hyperemesis gravidarum is a rare condition adversly affecting pregnant women, where nausea and vomiting is excessive and severe to the point a woman and her unborn baby's health can be adversely affected. It is not the same thing as your typical morning sickess. But you don't have to suffer through this alone. I hope to help you by connecting you with information, support, and resources on dealing specifically with hyperemesis gravidarum.

Defined by Rare
"Hyperemesis gravidarum (HG) is a rare disorder characterized by severe and persistent nausea and vomiting during pregnancy that may necessitate hospitalization. As a result of frequent nausea and vomiting, affected women experience dehydration, vitamin and mineral deficit, and the loss of greater than five percent of their original body weight."

An article from a Ugandan newspaper about hyperemesis gravidarum:
Morning Sickness: The Ignored Killer

H/T to After Abortion for the link

Informational and Professional Websites:

Beyond Morning Sickness: Battling Hyperemesis Gravidarum
The website, named for the book written by Ashli McCall, contains resources as well as a support forum for women suffering from HG.

Body Mutiny: Extreme Morning
"Through this website, hyperemesis survivor Jenna Schmitt recalls her high-risk pregnancy, offering insights and education that speak volumes to pregnant women and their families. In particular, those suffering from hyperemesis gravidarum or any other complication will find understanding and inspiration here. Jenna’s pregnancy has produced her first book entitled Body Mutiny: Surviving Nine Months of Extreme Morning Sickness. In a powerful mix of poetry and prose, she takes you through 40 harrowing weeks of a hyperemesis pregnancy."

Take Two Crackers...
"Approximately two-thirds of all pregnant women experience some form of morning sickness either at the beginning or throughout the duration of their pregnancy. Our goal is to introduce lifestyle modifications and increase nutrition awareness to help reduce morning sickness during your pregnancy. Miriam Erick has pioneered the modern discussion of truly effective diet and lifestyle modifications that help women tolerate morning sickness during pregnancy. She is an experienced Registered Dietitian (Clinical Obstetrics, Rheumatology, General Surgery and Orthopedic). Her approach to morning sickness is explained in her informative, eye-opening book "Take Two Crackers and Call Me in the Morning!".

HER Foundation: Hyperemesis Education and Research
The HER Foundation provides education & support for mothers suffering from hyperemesis gravidarum and those who care for them.

Blooming Awful
The UK hyperemesis gravidarum awareness group

A personal website with basic information on the condition and available treatment options.

HuGs: Hyperemesis Gravidarum Survivors
A personal website with women's stories, medical information (i.e. treatment options and dietary information), and a support message board.

HG Help Boards
A support forum for the women and their families suffering from HG

Motherisk: Resources for Nausea
Offers facts and resources on morning sickness through a publication on nausea research; offers a toll-free helpline for North America.

Matria Health Care: Nausea and Vomiting in Pregnancy

Information for Women and Clinical Practice Guidelines for Nausea and Vomiting in Pregnancy
Prepared by the Obstetrics Committee of the SOGC (requires Adobe Acrobat Reader)

eMedicine Health - Vomiting During Pregnancy
Learn about causes, diagnosis and treatment options

Hyperemesis Gravidarum
by Richard Chudacoff, M.D. Discussion of Alternative Treatments for Hyperemesis

HG Supplies, Pharmaceuticals and Supplement Product Pages:

Her Foundation: Common HG Medications

Morning Sickness Help
Various products including vitamin suckers, discreet vomiting bag, and aromatherapy for lessening the effects of morning sickness.

Women Share Their Personal Stories:

Baby, You're Making Me Sick!

"I am a happy wife and a mother to two adorable little boys. I had severe Hyperemesis Gravidarum during both of my pregnancies. I started this blog so I can share my own memories and experiences with the other .03%-2.0% of pregnant women who are experiencing this unrelenting illness."

Building My Baby
"A blog following me through the ups, downs, joys, and woes of pregnancy"

Getting Personal With HG

"This blog will detail my journey through HG. It may not be the most uplifting thing to read or view every day, but it's important to spread awareness about this disease, which often goes undiagnosed."

Hyperemesis Gravidarum: a diary
Journal of a Ashli McCall's 4th experience with hyperemesis gravidarum

My Hyperemesis: Anna's Blog
"This is a collection of information I have gathered through my experience with HG and postpartum residual nausea. My goal is to raise awareness about this understudied, misunderstood pregnancy illness."

Christa's HGStory

One woman's story in her struggle with HG during her first pregnancy, with a husband who stayed by her side

Island of Grief, Mountain of Joy
The story of a woman's triumph, tragedy and hopefully more triumphs with Hyperemesis Gravardium. Often a misunderstood, misdiagnosed and mistreated disease

Knocked Up-Knocked Over: My Journey Through Hyperemesis Gravidarum
A woman details her journey through HG. It may not be the most uplifting thing to read every day, but it's important to spread awareness about this disease, which often goes undiagnosed.

The S.I.C.L.E. Cell
A blog by Ashli McCall, author of Beyond Morning Sickness, who suffered from severe hyperemesis gravidarum during a previous pregnancy. Following the advice of her doctor and relatives, she relented into a late-term abortion, ending the very much wanted pregnancy. Her blog consists of her personal experience and insights of her situation, as well as healing from the abortion.

The Whinning Puker

Thoughts, agitations and cogitations of a 27-year old woman considering a second pregnancy while pondering the likelihood of a recurrence of hyperemesis gravidarum.